IR: Remove uselist for constantdata (#137313)

This is a resurrected version of the patch attached to this RFC:

https://discourse.llvm.org/t/rfc-constantdata-should-not-have-use-lists/42606

In this adaptation, there are a few differences. In the original patch, the Use's
use list was replaced with an unsigned* to the reference count in the value. This
version leaves them as null and leaves the ref counting only in Value.

Remove use-lists from instances of ConstantData (which are shared
across modules and have no operands).

To continue supporting most of the use-list API, store a ref-count in
place of the use-list; this is for API like Value::use_empty and
Value::hasNUses.  Operations that actually need the use-list -- like
Value::use_begin -- will assert.

This change has three benefits:

 1. The compiler output cannot in any way depend on the use-list order
    of instances of ConstantData.

 2. There's no use-list traffic when adding and removing simple
    constants from operand lists (although there is ref-count traffic;
    YMMV).

 3. It's cheaper to serialize use-lists (since we're no longer
    serializing the use-list order of things like i32 0).

The downside is that you can't look at all the users of ConstantData,
but traversals of users of i32 0 are already ill-advised.

Possible follow-ups:
  - Track if an instance of a ConstantVector/ConstantArray/etc. is known
    to have all ConstantData arguments, and drop the use-lists to
    ref-counts in those cases.  Callers need to check Value::hasUseList
    before iterating through the use-list.
  - Remove even the ref-counts.  I'm not sure they have any benefit
    besides minimizing the scope of this commit, and maintaining the
    counts is not free.

Fixes #58629

Co-authored-by: Duncan P. N. Exon Smith <dexonsmith@apple.com>